with the new technologies cheating has become at the finger tips of the unfaithful
so many stories of unfaithful messages found on blackberries.
so many stories of unfaithful emails found on husband's or wife's accounts.
with bbm, hotmail, face-book, and gmail those with unfaithful tendencies are having a blast.
harmless flirting is what they call it, keeping doors of fantasies open is what they do.
a cyber kiss, a brave word on a p.c. comes out easier than on the tongue.
the cheater is obvious, look in their eyes it sparkles with devil's dust and shines.
they usually stare and smile too much, they also ask too many questions.
i saw the movie "up in the air".
if you have not seen it i do not want to spoil it, but it was a shocker for me.
what happened to fidelity?
why has hollywood portrayed couples like animals.
and all the movies i have been seeing lately always involve a partner who says : " i had a few drinks, it meant nothing, it won't happen again"
to my surprise the women have done so much too, just as bad as the men.
although in arab countries we have been socialized that men are more prone to fall for such mistakes because of some reason that makes them half men half dogs, but apparently the women have lately gained the same right too.
the pains of infidelity are the same, women and men both feel pain when they find out. yet our culture in the middle east expects men to sleep with anyone they are in close contact with or at least fantasize about it, since they say the mans brain is made that way. so many women have to forgive and ignore until the fling passes.
lately it seems to me that they wired the woman's brain too, to be made that way. a sexual obsession spread, i do not know if it is because of the availability of porn on the internet, the connotations by the media, or the excessive openness in the world due to the new arrivals of social engines like face-book, my space, and emails.
at the airport lounge in london as i pour the orange juice in my glass i look to the right and i see a man sitting with his laptop on his lap and the screen is visible to me, and guess what he is watching? PORN!
can you believe how comfortable he is? how brave and not ashamed he was? it was a shocker to me. i ran back to my seat and felt like we were in a room with the biggest creep. if he wanted porn than he should have gotten a room, we do not all have to know about it. it is like peeing in public.
being casual has become so cool, casual, cool, breezy, open and friendly. men have always fantasized about these kind of people: the stripper, the waitress, the air hostess anyone who serves them in a uniform and does not argue much.
women too they love the uniform, the care taker, the provider. the body guard, the life guard, the teacher, the politician, the doctor who can save them, anyone who leads.
some men like tiger woods are married to super models and still they cheat and that is beyond me to explain, others just fantasize about the woman they can not have.
i can sometimes read minds that is my problem i have seen so many men laugh in evil ways as they catch a glimpse of a beautiful woman.
and it happened to me many times that some men are too friendly and i have to remind them how it is not much fun and a bit disgusting too.
it makes me sick to my stomach the concept of the unfaithful.
the nervous laughs the arab men giggle with when beautiful women's names are mentioned.
their dreams of polygamy literally make me gag.
and the women who think they are so smooth, that they can get away with their filthiness.
in the movies i have seen lately married women cheat and sleep with strangers, and they do not apologize and they are forgiven. the western man seems more forgiving. but sleeping with strangers has presented it self in the media as the first thing to do after a few drinks.
what was a big surprise for me is the old men who remained perverts until they lost their teeth. i greet them with the respect of the elderly and i find that they are still the same inside, neurotic and disgusting. do not let them fool you, in their eyes they show it all. my first day in a class at university i thought yay! a cute old man as a teacher, like a father, like a grand father, until his perverted ways started showing and he started acting insane. i tried to write a petition but they told me he has got so many complaints and it seems like he is backed by a very important person so nothing ever happens to him.
it was a shock for me that everyone knows about him and his ways, and it is o.k.
people are not dogs is my message.
i think it is disgusting the thought of rules do not apply beyond national borders.
i think sex without love is disgusting. the media makes it seem amazing and makes every spectator dream of his chance.
i think people need a reminder of their true nature which is not filth.
people of Hollywood be careful, you are the role models of so much of the world, do not portray filth as dreamy, and stop making everything and anything o.k, because it is not.
