love and service

this discovery is not just mine.
Gandhi new about it.
many others too.

the best way to love someone is to serve them.
the best way to love someone is to take care of them.


i thought of all the sacred relationships. I see a common theme:
service
something from the realm of magic takes place in the act of serving someone.
you fall deeper in love every time you do something for someone.
the more the effort the greater the love grows.

the most loving relationship is between a mother and a child.
and it consists of so much giving from the mother's side.
for many months the mother gets no signs
of gratitude from her baby but she still loves
the baby more than anyone who has ever thanked her before.

why is it that they say the first three months are the hardest, maybe it is because in the beginning the giving has to be dramatically exhausting so that the love can form. People are like that they love who they gave so much time to, they love who they care for, the more you surrender the more they offer. Nobody is as helpless as the new born.

The baby has no pride or ego, they let the mother do it all and love from her core. silence is also the best way that love can be born, for so long they do not talk and they can be silent together, something the mother can not do with many of her friends.
Intimacy is created through out her witnessing of the most vulnerable moments of the baby, who depends on her in everything. She might be originally lazy but when this baby counts on her and has no one else to hold she steps up and leaves her covers in the middle of the night she is there for the baby to have and to hold.

crying is not so bad after all, if the baby cries with her, a bond has been built crying gets you closer and messages are clear. In the beginning life is painful and hard and the baby can not help it but cry. some people go on with water always ready to slip from their eyes, but babies are the masters of the of tears. that is because their hearts are not rough enough to hold back.

they are ready to receive love and our creator knows us more than anyone, he knows that we need to take care of someone in order to love them. He made the baby tiny and cute so the parents can take care of the small being easily. Everything is planned so you can fall in love. to have someone depend on you you are bound to fall in love, to be taken care of you also can not help but fall in love.


pets and their owners develop a bond because of the aspect of care giving

someone takes control
someone surrenders
someone takes care of someone and love blooms


I have never felt as worthy as I felt when I started taking care of someone

why is it different between men and women?
why does it have to be a fight?
why is it a competition of power?

in surrendering there is complete power.

feeding someone is a huge part of loving them and vise versa

someone must dedicate their self to this love
some one must be a home to the other
someone must be the comfort
someone must surrender


love is complicated when time passes
love kills slowly when you lose yourself to the roller-coaster
love can really hurt you
and it can take you to higher places

love is an art
like a good horse back rider you must ride over your heart and take control
but the heart of the emotional is often like a wild horse taking its owner to places they dread
hurting no one more than its owner

streaming tears are not the choice of the lover
if it were up to them they would wish they had hearts with fortresses

i discovered that happiness is in serving someone you love that is not yourself
serving strangers is even better since you expect nothing in return

food paves the way to the heart

what could ever be better than finding a home in another's heart?
in taking care of the things of another, people fall in love.
the little things bring people together

love is in dedicating your life to serve your beloved
starting from God
to life partners
to husbands and wives
to children
to the people of the world
what is a greater show of love?
other than offering your self?

love is an instinct we start loving the person who took care of us first most probably it is our mother.